Skooled Episodes

031 Branding: Beyond Selfies

Brand Marketing can make or break your business. Even if you don't have a business, if you're employed, chances are you have a professional profile, in which case you are your brand. How you choose to market your business or yourself has a lot to do with your success. Millennial entrepreneur and branding expert, Trevy Caldwell is the found of MyStory MyBrand. She joins Skooled with some must have tips on branding for beginners.

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030 Mindset Manifestation Part II: Clear Goals and Limiting Beliefs

In Part II of the Mindset Manifestation series, Dr. Petrina Naylor, PhD, talks about creating a growth mindset, which in part entials being clear and intentional about your goals and identifying upper limits or the limiting beliefs that are holding you back from achieving your dreams,

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029 Mindset Manifestation Part I: Ask, Believe, Receive

Succes of failure. Win or Lose. These things are often determined by our mindset. If something is holding you back from achieving your dreams and goals, chances are it has everything to do with your midset. Dr. Petrina Naylor, PhD, s a mindset coach and the founder of A Queen With Dreams who teaches clients how to have a mindset that helps them manifest their dreams. She joins Skooled to teach us the keys to elevating our mindset so we can manifest everything we hope for and aspire to have.

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028: Love Thy Self

We are our own worst critics! We can be meaner to ourselves than the meanest person we know. We can punish ourselves without even knowing it. Self love can change this. Self acceptance is one of the first steps. Jaclyn Amys is a therapist who sees a a therapist herself and hosts The Anxious Therapist Podcast. She joins Skooled to show us how we can learn to accept ourselves while becoming the person we want to be.

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027: The Most Anxious Generation

Millennials have been dubbed the, "Most Anxious Generation." Stress and anxiety are so common that many of us just expect it in our daily lives as much as we expect sunrise or rain. These days there are so many environmental factors that exacerbate the problem, including our busy schedules, social media and even our sleep habits. The good news is stress and anxiety don't have to control your life. Therapist, Derrick Collins helps run the Stress and Anxiety Center in Florida with his father and joins Skooled to show us how we can learn to manage stress and anxiety so they don't manage us.

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026: The Money Moves Plan

Making Money Moves is a very millennial thing to say. CPA and Financial Education expert, Mara Liz Meinhofer, is taking it a step further with her Money Moves Plan that can help anyone reach their financial goals, even if they only have $1. She joins Skooled to share these tips and her own personal financial journey, which includes the lows of being broke and in debt as well as the highs of overseeing accumulated budgets of $1 billion and serving as the former Deputy Secretary of Puerto Rico's Department of Economic Development and Commerce.

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025: Living Your Best Life In Debt

Debt. Millions of millennials and young adults are saddled with it. Many have not figured out how to manage it well or pay it off. Meet Jason Butler: millennial blogger and founder at mymoneychronicles.com. For several years Jason has been chronicling his struggles and successes with paying off tens of thousands of dollars of debt while living his best life, pursuing his goals and having fun. He joins Skooled to share his secretes and advice for other millennials struggling to do the same.

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024: Credit is Currency

Good luck doing pretty much anything without having a good credit score. The good news is, if you're not on the best of terms with Experian, Equifax and TransUnion, it's not too late to start fresh. Financial advisor Faith McLemore of Credit Currency joins Skooled to give millennials, xennials and Gen-Zers 5 tips they can use to start the new year on the path to having good credit.

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023: What They Don't Tell You About Weddings

Cohosts and newlyweds, Jason Clark and Nia Clark, are back together on another episode of Skooled to talk about their recent nuptials and some of the important lessons millennials are rarely told abou the ups and downs of planning a wedding and making it to the alter.

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022: From Reality TV to Real Love

We know her as Dr. Lexy on the OWN reality TV show, "Ready To Love." Dr. Alexix Branch joins journalist, Nia Hamm, on Skooled podcast to talk about her highs and lows on the show, what she learned while on the show and how she stepped out on faith and found true love.

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021: The Power of Laughter

We often speak of mental health care as a form of treatment. Many people don't realize the benefits of mental health care as a preventative measure. Certified mental health coach, Joseph Bonner, aims to spread this awareness with the re-launch of his self-titled mental health based magazine, the Joseph Magazine. He joins Skooled Podcast to chat about the publication, the importance of laughter and how to stay sane in an insane world.

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020: The Millennial Wives Club

Being a millennial wife to #bae in some ways comes with a unique set of challenges and experiences our mothers and grandmothers never had. It can be exciting and terrifying all at once. That's why Tia Davidson founded The Millennial Wives Club, a lifestyle and fashion blog dedicated to Millennial women who are dealing with major transitional life events such as marriage, motherhood, career, new location, and a new identity. She joins journalist, Nia Hamm, on Skooled to talk about all of that and more.

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019: Millennial Girl Meets World

Beyonce says girls run the world. Maybe. However, many millennial women are struggling just to survive in a world that looks nothing like the one our teachers and professors said it would before we graduated. That's why Shay Harkness and Brae Creech started The Millennial Girl Way: a community that offers various tools to help every young woman reach their truest potential. They join journalist, Nia Hamm, to talk about their inspiration behind the brand and how to tackle some of the toughest issues millennial girls are grappling with.

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018: Getting "unstuck"

Feeling stuck in life? Unclear about your purpose? Working hard with little reward? Unclear about a way forward? If you're ready to get "unstuck" and become empowered, Marline Francois Madden can show you how. Empowerment isn't what she does, it's who she is. The sought-after mental health expert, owner of Hearts Empowerment Counseling Center and public speaker joins journalist, Nia Hamm, to share some of her secrets to helping young adults unlock their full potential.

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017: Serving Style With A Side of Inspiration

At just 23 years old, Eric Jones is cross off accomplishments on his bucket list that take many people years to do. He runs his own shoe company as well as a branding company. He joins, journalist, Nia Hamm, to explain how a string of personal tragedies fueled his dreams and success.

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016: From Rock Bottom to Rock Star

Feeling confused about your purpose in life? Wondering if you're making the best decisions for your personal happiness and professional success? Millions of millennials, xennials and Gen-Zers are in the same boat. Unfortunately for us - and unlike our parents - there is no longer a "blue print" for life. That's why Blogger, Podcaster and Business Consultant, Rachel Ritlop, started the Confused Millennial: a community of young adults helping each other find a way forward. She joins journalist, Nia Hamm, to talk about how she turned her lowest moments into her greatest achievements and how she's helping others do the same.

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015: Couples Therapy: how married millennials make love last

Married millennials Steven and Kimberly McRoyal have been together since they were teenagers. They started their Millennial Married podcast to help other millennials find and keep lasting love. In this episode of Skooled they join journalist, Nia Hamm, to talk love, growth, infidelity, forgiveness and much more.



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014: From Passion to Profit

Huge numbers of millennial women entrepreneur are leaving their 9-5 jobs to start their own businesses. Emmy Award winning bi-coastal documentary producer, Alana Blaylock, is one of them and she's found great success in doing so. Hear about her amazing journey, including the ups, downs and the advice she has for other young women hoping to start their own company.

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013: Digs: where 20 and 30-somethings are putting down roots

In this episode, Journalist, Nia Hamm, is joined by John Walkup of Urbandigs.com to discuss where millennials and gen-Zers (20 and 30-somethings) are living in large numbers and why. The episode also explores some of the best tools young adults can use to find a community they can call home.

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012: Insanely Smart Money-Saving Wedding Tips for Millennials: Part 2

In this epsode of Skooled we're continuing our conversation about some of the best ways adults can save on weddings. Journalist, Nia Hamm, and her fiance, Jason Clark, are joined by wedding planner, Alicia Smith, who dishes on everything from frugal ways to send wedding invitations, choose creative decor, shop for budget-friendly bridal shops and designers as well as how to choose a cost-effective, fabulous reception menu.

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011: Insanely Smart Money-Saving Wedding Tips for Millennials

In this episode of Skooled, the panel discusses some of the best money-saving tips young adults can use to cut back on costs for the big day! Journalist, Nia Hamm is Joined by millennial financial expert, speaker and author of Broke Millennial, Erin Lowry, who dishes on some of the best financially savvy ways for millennials to plan a wedding and marriage on a budgget.

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010: Identity's influence on the young, anxious and depressed

In this episode we'll tackle the prevalence of anxiety and depression among today's young adults and how this trend impacts minority and marginalized communities differently than other segments of the population. Guests include Visual Artist, Christine Neptune; Carl Forbes, Jr., who is an Attorney and Real Estate Broker; and Janel Richardson-James, who is a student at John Jay College of Criminal Justice as well as an advocate of the Mental Health Awareness Project, which is run by the Youth Advocacy Corps.

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009: Mental Health Awareness Across Color Lines

Young adults are more open to discussing issues relating to mental health than previous generations according to recent research. Despite progress on this front mental health awareness isn't felt as widely in minority and marginalized communities. The Skooled panel explores why and the impact this has on these communities. Guests include: consultant and health care administrator, Marc Alan Minick, Ph.D., LMSW, as well as Hasan Shabazz and Melissa Lawrie, who are both Psychologists at the New York State Office of People with Developmental Disabilities (OPWDD).

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008: The Loneliness Epidemic

Young adults are far more digitally and socially connected than previous generations. Yet, young people are far more likely than senior citizens to report being lonely. This episode of Skooled tackles the pervasive feeling of loneliness reported among so many young adults, the reasons behind it as well as remedies to address it. Journalist, Nia Hamm, is joined by NYC-based pyschotherapist and founder of A Good Place Therapy, Kerri Mohr. She is also a volunteer with Sidewalk Talk, which is an organization dedicated to listening to strangers talk about their problems on sidewalks in dozens of cities across the world for free.

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007: Young and Financially Illiterate

Whether it's juggling one or more jobs, student loans, establishing independences, renting or buying a home, economic uncertainty and a changing socio-economic landscape, young adults have to focus their attention on many more simultaneous distractions than previous generations. It's no wonder financial literacy is not a strong suite among many of them, especially when it isn't widely taught in schools or talked about in many households. In this episode, Skooled tackles the issue of financial literacy among young adult and exactly what that looks like for today's younger generations. Journalist Nia Hamm is joined by Personal Finance Expert and Broke Millennial Author, Erin Lowry, as well as VP of Business Development at Millennial Advisors, LLC, Ron Rivas.

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006: Young Adults and the New Economy

In this episode the panel tackles some of the biggest challenges today's young adults have with finances and wealth including, issues pertaining to wealth creation, wealth preservation and the psychological relationship many young adults have with money. Journalist Nia Hamm and her fiance, Jason Clark, are joined by
CEO/Founder of Master the Talk Consulting, Forbes Contributor, Career/Business/Life Coach and author Yuri Kruman as well as Carter Ledyard & Milburn LLP Trust and Estates Attorney, Preston Demouchet.

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005: What Women Should Know About Self-Care

Self-care is a trendy phrase but many people are unaware of exactly what it is. It has also become a booming $400 billion dollar industry catering heavily to women who often rely on it to create balance in their lives. Journalist Nia Hamm is joined by a dynamic panel of wellness experts to tackle these topics and many more. Dr. Erin Stair is a physician, health consultant and author. Victoria Albina is a holistic medicine provider and life coach. Dr. Shireen Fernandez is a researcher, physician, entrepreneur and philanthropist.

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004: Leading Ladies

Whether it's working in the arts or in corporate America, climbing the career ladder can be challenging for women working in male-dominated fields. In this episode, journalist Nia Hamm continues to celebrate Women's History Month by talking to two women career professionals about how they've done just that. She's joined by Tonya Canady who can be seen in commercials and on TV shows including, "Bull" on CBS, "Shades of Blue" on NBC as well as projects like the Netflix Pilor Original Series, "Seven Seconds." The ladies are also joined by New York State Supreme Court Principal Law Clerk and Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law Adjunct Professor, Kathleen Waterman, who is also running to become a judge in New York City.

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003: Working it Out

Journalist, Nia Hamm, is joined by former Reuters TV anchor turned Career Coach, Elizabeth Koraca; CEO/Founder of FundSpark, Fashion Institute of Technology Adjunct Professor and Career/Millennial Expert, Emily Miethner; as well as Attorney turned Career Coach Crystal Irom. In honor of Women's History Month, this episode of Skooled tackles the gender barriers young adult women face in the workplace and how they compare to gender barriers faced by previous generations of working women. This episode also looks at how young adult women can apply lessons of the past to their current employment situations.

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002: Marriage 'Matters'

Award winning celebrity life coach, speaker and co-author of Single Man Married Man, Pervis Taylor as well as Love Coach and Ladypreneur, Lisa Velazquez, join TV Reporter, Nia Hamm, and her fiance, Jason Clark, to discuss how xennials, millennials and GenZ-ers approach the concept of marriage and wether it still holds the same value as it once did. The panel also discusses what obstacles today's young adults face that may contribute to the low rates of marriage their generations experience.

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001: The Young Adult's Guide to Attracting the Right Life Partner

Psychologist, Dr. Vijayeta Sinh, and Transformative Coach, Nando Rodriguez, join host Nia Hamm and her fiance to tackle some of the major challenges young adults face when trying to attract a life partner. In this episode, Nia revisits the long 'list' she used to do that.

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How One List Changed My Love Life Forever

Nia Hamm | @niahammTV



Many people use lists to organize their lives. ‘Doing life’ wouldn’t really be possible for me without my grocery lists, to-do lists, and the army of Post-It notes all over my walls. While we may not get to check off everything on our lists in one day, getting to scratch off a few things helps us plan better and live more efficiently. I’d like to think the same is true when it comes to dating: whether you’re ready for a serious relationship or just looking for someone to get to know gradually.

Any friend of mine who has vented to me about her (or his) dating woes, has probably heard me mention the list at least once. My really good friends may even give me the occasional eye-roll behind my back when I bring it up because it’s become a constant refrain in my conversations about dating. In this context, the list is what I tell people to make when they’re having trouble meeting a potential mate or partner whom they’re compatible with. Manhattan Psychologist, Dr. Vijayeta Sinh describes this list as a set of values that reflect your character as well as qualities you desire in a partner. They serve as a guide to ensure you’re investing time into people you’re compatible with. “When you’re talking about a list, I’m actually thinking about values,” Sinh said. “What are the things that are important to me? What is my value system and how can I kind of find that in someone else or at least something similar where we kind of think about things similarly or we want similar things?” she said. If done thoughtfully, the list can help you transform your romantic life into one you desire. Months after I made my list, I met my fiancé.


In this sense, the list should be a manageable and reasonable set of attributes you want in a potential suitor. It should not be a rigid set of criteria used to disqualify someone within the first few minutes of meeting them. A recent study shows that the success of a first date is often decided within the first 12 minutes of meeting. Women tend to be less forgiving than men in this regard. Sometimes you can tell within minutes. Other times, it can take a few dates or more to determine if you’re compatible. The idea is not to be too rigid with your list. Use it as a guide, but be flexible.


Transformative Coach, Nando Rodriguez, cautions not to use the list to talk yourself out of a potentially good thing. “People call it deal breaker list, I call it, ‘it’s going to keep you single’ list,” he said. Rodriguez believes that too often, people focus on phenotypic features such as material wealth, work history, and academic pedigree. “And then you wonder why relationships don’t work out, because it wasn’t values: compassion, kindness, family oriented.” Again, it goes back to values.



As I was preparing to launch my podcast, Skooled, I thought it would be a good idea to find the list I made before I met my fiancé, since were planned on discussing these kinds of lists in the context of dating in the first episode. Prior to recording, I hadn’t actually seen my list in over 4 years. Amazingly, I was able to dig my list out of a tote underneath my bed. I remembered it being a bit more pristine. In reality, my sacred list was jotted down on a paper towel. Not even a full sized, nicely quilted paper towel. One of those half sheets you get on a roll that’s either meant to save the environment or save you money. Luckily, the writing was intact. It reads: kind, compassionate, intelligent, generous, loyal, down to earth, giving, successful, ambitious, attractive (because I’m human) and romantic. These are all of the qualities I was looking for in the next person I dated. How this list came to be was a matter of trial and error of the most heartbreaking kind.
Admittedly, I don’t always take my mother’s advice, but after years of painful, abusive and traumatic relationships, mother dear made the point that I wasn’t dating people who shared my values. She promised that if I made this a priority, I would see a shift in my love life. She was right (don’t tell her). So, I took a dating sabbatical, which is like a body cleanse for your life, which I definitely recommend it if you find yourself on a hamster wheel of disastrous relationships like I was. This particular hiatus followed yet another incredibly toxic relationship. I didn’t want to waste any more of my time on someone who was not going to value and honor my life. When my dating sabbatical had run its course, I made my list and used it as a guide when I was read to start dating again. Sure enough, I began attracting people who possessed the qualities on my list. If I attracted someone who did not possess enough of the values I deemed important, it was easy to move on because my list was top of mind. Several months after making my list, I met my fiance who possesses everything on my list. That was fast!


Each list will be different for each person. My list, reflects a set of values (minus the whole “attractive” criteria because again, I’m human) that align with who I am and what I need in a relationship. I was looking for someone who is comfortable and confident in being emotionally connected, and has the caring and compassionate qualities I never attracted from the “winners” I had previously dated (slight dig). For all intents and purposes, your list should represent values that align with your character and your individual needs.
However, one of the most important aspects of a list isn’t even what’s on it. It’s equally important what you choose to omit. In other words, in order for your list to work, you need to have a clear sense of self. The old adage that “struggle builds character” fits perfectly here. Before I made my list, I had to unpack the pain of past relationships and understand the root causes. That’s a blog post for another day. Suffice it to say, once I began doing this, I became more clear about who I was and had a better understanding of what I wanted and needed. I was also able to use my past painful relationships as examples of what I did not want in a future relationship — without letting the painful memories they evoked consume me. As Dr. Sinh suggests, your best list is created when your sense of self is strongest. “Knowing what you want in someone else means knowing who you are,” she said. “You have to have a strong sense of who you are and a strong sense of what you want. And then [ask], is that reasonable,” Sinh said.

If you’re seeking love or a romantic relationship, I invite you to create your list and see how it changes your life.

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